Remember how I was going to live this year in the moment, no expectations, take things as they came?
It's not going so well. I'm an achiever. I'm a planner. I'm a do-er. And I get bored easily. Especially when I feel like I'm not being challenged. When I finish one challenge, I need to find another one.
That's what I need right now. Someone challenge me PLEASE! I'm begging. I'm tired of the same old, same old. Aren't you??? The feeling seeps into every pore. Work, relationships, social life...everything feels stale. And I can't live with a second-rate life. I need some new goals.
So, despite my credo for the year, I'm planning to shake things up. I've spent the last several days trying to come up with some worthy ideas for improving my boring existence. It turned out to be pretty easy. Most of them are intensely personal (even for someone who blabs about her life on the internet), but here's a good one:
Yesterday, a co-worker gave me information about the Team in Training for the Leukemia Society. The idea is you train for and run half or full marathons to raise money for cancer research. AND--wait for it--some of the races are in AMAZING places...like, oh say, DUBLIN!!!
Granted, I will have to raise a boat-load of cash. But if I do, they take care of airfare, hotel, and food. What a goal! I would get to run in the most beautiful country in the world. Can you even imagine? It would combine a travel adventure with motivation to keep my ass in gear physically, and most importantly it would contribute to a great organization's cause.
So in a couple of weeks, I'm attending an information session to find out what it's all about. It'll be over a year before it all goes down, but just knowing I have a plan makes the monotony of today a little bit more tolerable.
Now who wants to come with?
...and can I just say, if I go to Dublin again, I'm never coming home?!
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Wednesday, February 28, 2007
Just Wondering...
Do you ever find yourself lost in a “what if” moment? Ordinarily, I live my life by the philosophy that nothing is destined, that life is a great big “choose your own adventure” book. Each choice moves you in a direction you might not otherwise have gone and opens up a whole new array of choices. I try to look at what ifs as choices made and move on. But every now and then, one gets the best of me.
I always support my philosophy with the story of my slacking off in my senior year of college. I spent most of the year tossing around the notion of finding a job instead of going to grad school right away, only to find out halfway through the summer just how unmarketable an English Lit degree really is. Virtually my only option was a regional state school that was not only still accepting grad applications but also offering an assistantship. To supplement the assistantship stipend, I applied for part time work in a million places and happened to get hired first at TGIFriday’s. Almost all of the important people in my life I met there. Those school and work decisions from seven years ago still affect the path I’m on today.
But just imagine: what if I’d been motivated my last year of college? What if I’d gone to Notre Dame or NYU or Brown? What if I’d been hired at Houlihans or the GAP? Where would I be now? Who would my friends be? Life would be undeniably different.
Lately I’ve been wondering about other what ifs. Deeper, aching what ifs. If nothing is destined, then it can’t really be true that someone else is living the life I was meant to have. But sometimes it feels that way. There was a time when I had everything I wanted. But, of course, it wasn’t enough. I wanted more. I wanted better. I said and did the stupid things that people do when they are never content. And now I’m left wondering, what if I’d said yes instead of no? What if I’d taken the risk? What if I had refused to walk away? Maybe I’d be living that life still wondering what else might have been, just like I am now. Maybe things would have turned out like I then believed they would, badly. Or maybe I’d be living the life I’ve always secretly wanted instead of writing about it.
Unfortunately there are no do-overs. Sometimes once a series of choices is made, you’re stuck in the present and might not ever return to a place where it’s possible to cancel out those old mistakes with better choices. Sometimes all the new, good choices in the world can’t make up for the opportunities that have already passed you by. Life doesn’t always come full circle. But, oh, how I wish, just this once, it could.
I always support my philosophy with the story of my slacking off in my senior year of college. I spent most of the year tossing around the notion of finding a job instead of going to grad school right away, only to find out halfway through the summer just how unmarketable an English Lit degree really is. Virtually my only option was a regional state school that was not only still accepting grad applications but also offering an assistantship. To supplement the assistantship stipend, I applied for part time work in a million places and happened to get hired first at TGIFriday’s. Almost all of the important people in my life I met there. Those school and work decisions from seven years ago still affect the path I’m on today.
But just imagine: what if I’d been motivated my last year of college? What if I’d gone to Notre Dame or NYU or Brown? What if I’d been hired at Houlihans or the GAP? Where would I be now? Who would my friends be? Life would be undeniably different.
Lately I’ve been wondering about other what ifs. Deeper, aching what ifs. If nothing is destined, then it can’t really be true that someone else is living the life I was meant to have. But sometimes it feels that way. There was a time when I had everything I wanted. But, of course, it wasn’t enough. I wanted more. I wanted better. I said and did the stupid things that people do when they are never content. And now I’m left wondering, what if I’d said yes instead of no? What if I’d taken the risk? What if I had refused to walk away? Maybe I’d be living that life still wondering what else might have been, just like I am now. Maybe things would have turned out like I then believed they would, badly. Or maybe I’d be living the life I’ve always secretly wanted instead of writing about it.
Unfortunately there are no do-overs. Sometimes once a series of choices is made, you’re stuck in the present and might not ever return to a place where it’s possible to cancel out those old mistakes with better choices. Sometimes all the new, good choices in the world can’t make up for the opportunities that have already passed you by. Life doesn’t always come full circle. But, oh, how I wish, just this once, it could.
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